How to Choose the Best Self Help Books

Far be it from me to tell you how to choose the best self help books — a good self help book is any book that helps you. Having said that, a list of the best selling self help books will get you started on your way to self improvement. There are multiple categories of top self help books, from books that are meant for women, for men, for Christians, teens, etc — there’s bound to be a self help book that is right up your alley.

Self Help Books for Teens

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff for Teens, Richard Carlson

The super popular “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” series is adapted for teenagers in this text by famous self help author Richard Carlson. Inside, you can find 100 short chapters focusing on helping teenagers improve their selves, from love life to work to school.

Success Principles for Teens, Jack Canfield

Written by one of the creators of the popular Chicken Soup for the Soul series has designed a fun to read guide full of timeless information and inspiration that acts as a road map for the principles of self help.

Dealing With the Stuff that Makes Life Tough, Jill Zimmerman Rutledge

An easy to read ten-step guide to self help for teens uses historical and anecdotal stories about teens to instruct teenagers in how to improve their lives.

Self Help Books for Men

Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self Defeating Behavior, Dr. Mark Goulston

Problems with procrastination, envy, anger, self-pity, and compulsion are covered in this popular self help book for men by famous author Dr. Mark Goulston. This book acts as an antidote for these common problems, both explaining the reasons that men get in their own way and sharing ideas for self help that have helped thousands of Dr. Goulston’s male patients improve their lives. Full of humor as well as insight, this is an easy read for even the most inexperienced student of self help.

The Ultimate Self Help Guide for Men, Joe Novella


Though everyone wants “short cuts to happiness”, Novella explains a few practical answers to men’s biggest self help questions without offering a “quick fix”. Topics covered include avoiding guilt, dealing with your sexual partner’s difficulties, staying fit and healthy in a fast food world, and overcoming self-loathing. Written by a bartender (who better to give advice to men about self help?) this book provides a unique perspective on the problems men face. Consider this a “one stop shop” for overcoming the problems that plague men.

Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdon on Being a Man, Elliot Katz

An interesting text that challenges contemporary notions of what it means to “be a man”, this book promises to give you “timeless secrets” to being the man your partner wants you to be.Attempting to explain why most relationships these days just aren’t working, Katz wants to help you figure out how to be a better man, and offers advice on things you can do right now to make things better in your relationship.

Self Help Books for Women

Five Simple Steps to Emotional Healing: The Last Self-Help Book You Will Ever Need, Gloria Arenson

A guidebook to what is known as “Meridian therapy”, this is the perfect self help book for women who are otherwise scared to read one of the millions of self help books aimed at women. Gloria Arenson, a new age philosopher and psychologist who specializes in something called “power therapies” teaches women five easy to follow steps to their emotional healing. Meridian therapy, a tactic that works with both Chinese medicine like acupuncture and acupressure and Western stress relief tactics, focuses on eight power points on the female body that help to get rid of anxiety, emotional turmoil from different traumas, and ways to heal difficulties in interpersonal relationships.

The Courage to be Yourself: A Woman’s Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem, Sue Patton Thoele

This famous women’s self help author offers her readers the chance to improve their self-esteem and “tap into their core emotional strength”. This self help book is aimed at women who who want to meet the high demands of the other people in her lives, namely men. This book promises women the ability to learn the tools necessary to change their crippling fears into courageous actions that lead to a better expression of self. As a bonus, a new edition of this book offers hundreds of new pages of material aimed at today’s women.

Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth, Sharon Wegseider-Cruse

It can be difficult for a woman to understand her self worth — as the author points out, dictionaries don’t even include definitions of words like “self worth”. The author works as the director of a clinic that specializes in treating drug addiction and problems, Wegscheider-Cruse gears this guide specifically to adult children of alcoholics but claims it is a good text for anyone “suffering from low self-esteem”. This book suggest that women re imagine their negative past experiences in order to form new behaviors that will lead to stronger emotional growth.

Self Help Books for Christians

The Power of Faithful Focus: A Practical Christian Guide to Spiritual and Personal Abundance, Les Hewitt

Written in cooperation with famous preacher and Christian theologian Charles Self, Les Hewitt discusses strategies for bettering your life and forming a balance between self-help and service to God.

Building Self Esteem: The Christian Dimension, Anselm Gruen

This text by little-known self help author and Christian Anselm Gruen promises to teach you long lasting “self-help” tactics that are Biblically-centered and explore how the Christian tradition can help people improve their lives. Christians will be comfortable with the Christ-centered advice for self help, without feeling like they’re missing out on the basic psychology of self help.

Self help books abound on today’s market. It seems that there’s a self help book for just about any category of person. Finding the top self help books is a matter of trail-and-error. Hopefully one of the self help books in the above lists will work for you.