Do Online Dating Services Work?

People these days are extremely busy. They have their careers, finances, family, and other aspects of their personal lives that they have to take care of. It leaves little time for getting out there on the club or bar scene and socializing for the perfect mate. So many people are even fed up with browsing the local night life areas and meeting one wrong person after another.

It is little wonder that online dating is so popular. Instead of taking a half an hour to work up the nerve to go talk to someone who looks interesting (and who may turn out to be completely incompatible), you can browse hundreds of profiles online and send out a dozen emails to some likely candidates. There are many online dating sites out there and it is easy to sign up at any one of them. But do online dating sites work? Are they capable of turning out results? And can you really find love online? Here are some of the positive aspects of online dating services.

Online Dating Convenience

One of the biggest positive aspects of online dating services is their convenience. You can browse through profiles at your leisure, in the comfort of your own home, without the hassle of having to go out looking your best and nervously walking up to a stranger. Think about it. How many times have you approached someone at a club to talk to them only to find out that they are not the least bit interesting? Online dating services eliminates that with profiles of their members. By providing profiles (and assuming that they are true) you can immediately check out the people who might be right for you without wasting a lot of time.

Another convenience of online dating services is time. Not everyone has a lot of time to date around trying to find that someone special. By using an online dating service, you can browse, send out emails, and chat with people when you have the time.

Large Numbers to Choose From


When you are at a bar or a club, how many people there are you really going to feel a connection with? Maybe a half dozen? When using online dating services, you have hundreds of potential candidates available to browse through. That is a pretty large playing field. You can do searches for people nearest to you or at least in your area. If you are not bothered by a long distance relationship or of even moving closer to a suitable mate, then you can search outside your area. Your perfect soulmate could be hundreds of miles away, you know.

Creating Your Online Dating Profile

One of the best things about using an internet dating service is creating your online dating profile. You can take as much time as you need to make a profile that pictures you in the best possible way. You don’t have to worry about getting tongue-tied or being put on the spot without a snappy comeback. It is easy to make yourself sound good in your profile.

If you are not sure what to write, get some friends to help or read what others have written on their profiles. A bit of advice to writing a good profile is to not overload it with every little piece of information about you. You want to have something to talk about during emails and chats with other members. After all, the fun part of dating is that ‘getting to know you’ period. Make them work a little for it. Also, you don’t want to put too much info on your profile due to the threat of identity thieves and stalkers. However you do your profile, this is your chance to make yourself sound as interesting as possible in order to draw in potential partners.

You Have To Work At It

So do online dating services work? Yes, but you have to really work at it. Dating online is much different than in person. You can start and end a simple conversation face to face in a few minutes that could take a week online. Also, subtle body language, physical cues, and variance in speech is completely lost in emails. You have to write exactly what you say or feel or else risk the other person misunderstanding part of it.

You also can’t just sit back and wait for online members to contact you. For one thing, there is no guarantee that they will contact you. Most dating sites have a tag on your profile stating when you were last online. People browsing the dating sites usually like to contact members who have been recently active. So if you want people to contact you, you need to be active. Another thing is that if you sit back and wait, you have no control over the type of people who will contact you. Don’t wait around for the loonies (and they are out there). Go do your own browsing and find someone that interests you.

How Many Online Dating Services Are On The Internet?

There are literally hundred of online dating services and they vary greatly. Some services are free and do not screen their members for accuracy and background. Other sites are paid memberships and do a thorough screening. There are also sites that cater to single professionals, alternative lifestyles, casual dating, potential marriages, and anything dealing with some kind of relationship. Here is a quick list of some of the more popular online dating services.

  • Yahoo Personals
  • Singles.Net

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