How To Write Good Online Dating Profiles?

If you are a member of an online dating site, then a good online profile is essential to attracting someone’s interests.  A good profile must contain all the pertinent information about yourself such as age, what you like, what you don’t like, smoking or not, and drinking or non-drinking. It must tell enough about what kind of person you are that someone with similar interests will want to make contact with you.

There are a lot of really bad dating site profiles out there. They might be cheesy (“Sleeping Beauty seeks her Prince Charming to carry her away”) to just downright creepy (“My soul dwells in darkness. Come share the night with me”). Sure, not everyone can put together a sentence in an elegant and poetical way. But you do want to catch some good potential matches, right? The best way to do that is to have a good, solid profile. But not everyone knows how to write good online dating profiles. What do you put in them?  What should you say about yourself? Let’s review a few strategies.

It’s Advertising, Baby!

Try to look at online dating from a business point of view. If you were a company trying to attract ‘customers’, you would want your profile page to paint you in the best possible way. Think of it like advertising. Poor advertising is not going to attract any customers. Customers are only going to check out a product that is properly advertised. This is the same thing that you want your profile page to do. It must be interesting enough and informative enough to cause someone to say “Hey, I like the sound of this. I want to read more about this person”. So it is not a good idea to be skimpy with your profile page.

Basic Information You Should Include in Onine Dating Profiles


Most dating sites are going to want the same type of information. They want you physical description such as age, height, weight, etc. Then there are usually a series of questions such as qualities you are looking for in a person, good qualities about yourself, romantic things you like to do, hobbies, favorite food, and things that you do not like. This is all basic information you should include in online dating profiles so that a person can look at your profile and see if they might be compatible with you at the first level.

Some questions can provide you the opportunity to talk more about yourself. You might be asked to describe your idea of a perfect date or the perfect special person you are looking for. Even if you are not comfortable writing long answers, don’t just put down one word answers such as yes and no. Elaborate a little more on these types of questions. It is an opportunity for someone to gauge what kind of person you are and will help with screening potential candidates.

How Much Is Too Much?

You can go too far when writing an online dating profile. People want to know what you do for a living, your hobbies, and how you like to spend your free time. What they don’t want to read is a long drawn out account of your last doctor visit or how think green coke bottles are so much more interesting than clear coke bottles. Too much of that sort of thing will send most likely matches running for the hills. You don’t want to put so much information in there that a person can read it and find out everything there is to know about you. An online profile is not a biographical novel. You want to put just enough detail in there about yourself to pique someone’s curiosity. One of the best parts of getting to know someone is in slowly finding out more about them through conversation. So put enough info into the profile but no too much.

Be Honest

Honesty is the most important aspect of an online dating profile. There are far too many people out there with profiles that are, at the least, exaggerated to a great degree. Others are just flat out lying. Not being truthful is very counter-productive to attracting a good match during online dating. It is far too easy to include false information and inaccurate photos to make yourself seem more interesting. This is only going to come back and bite you in the long run. For one thing, if your photos are not accurate, then the two of you can never meet. If your information is false (like you are a multi-millionaire CEO but in reality you are a truck driver) sooner or later the other person is going to find out and when they do, good luck hanging onto that relationship. Honesty is always the best advice. Besides, you want someone to fall for the real you, not something you are not.

Review It!

The final strategy on how to write good online dating profiles is to review what you have written. After the profile is completed but before you submit it, you should look it over. Make sure that it sounds good, has enough information about yourself that someone might find appealing, and has a current photo taken within the last few months. If you are not sure whether it is good enough, get some friends to read it or look at some of the other profiles all over the internet and compare them to yours. Remember that this is like advertising and you want to attract as many compatible matches as possible.

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